Mama said...

Something that I stumbled upon in FB that I would like to share...


媽媽這樣對出嫁的女兒說:
Māmā zhèyàng duì chūjià de nǚ'ér shuō:
Mama told her bride to be daughter as such:

媽媽說，生氣的時候不要吵架，可以不說話，不洗他衣服 ，但是，不要和他吵架。
Māmā shuō, shēngqì de shíhou bùyào chǎojià, kěyǐ bù shuōhuà, bù xǐ tā yīfú, dànshì, bùyào hé tā chǎojià.
Mama said, don't quarrel when you are angry, you can be silent, ignore the laundry, but do not quarrel with him.

媽媽說，和 男人 吵架了不要跑到外面去張揚，他向你邁進一步，你就向他走兩步。
Māmā shuō, hé nánrén chǎo jià liǎo bùyào pǎo dào wàimiàn qù zhāngyáng, tā xiàng nǐ mài jìnyībù, nǐ jiù xiàng tā zǒu liǎng bù.
Mama said, don't publicise to the world when you quarrel with your man, when he wants you to take 1 step towards him, you march 2 steps towards him instead.

媽媽說，家是 女人 的大本營，發生什麼事情都不要走。因為，回來路的很難。
Māmā shuō, jiā shì nǚrén de dàběnyíng, fāshēng shénme shìqíng dōu bùyào zǒu. Yīnwèi, huílái lù de hěn nán.
Mama said, home is a woman's safety port, do not walk away no matter what happen. This is because the road to return is tough.

媽媽說，兩個人在家不要老想著面子，兩個人過日子，面子很重要？那在外面怎麼 生活 ？
Māmā shuō, liǎng gèrén zàijiā bùyào lǎo xiǎngzhe miànzi, liǎng gèrén guòrìzi, miànzi hěn zhòngyào? Nà zài wàimiàn zěnme shēnghuó?
Mama said, a couple should not be egoistic towards each other. If ego is so important when you are living under the same roof, what will happen when you have to make a living out there?

媽媽說，不管一個男人多有錢，他還是希望可以看到乾乾淨淨的你在乾乾淨淨地家等他。
Māmā shuō, bùguǎn yīgè nánrén duō yǒu qián, tā háishì xīwàng kěyǐ kàn dào gān gānjìng jìng de nǐ zài gān gānjìng jìng de jiā děng tā.
Mama said, no matter how wealthy a man is, we would still yearn to see a pleasant you waiting for him in the your comfortable home.

媽媽說，好男人很多，他不會去抱別的女人。但是這種社會，很多壞女人會伸手去抱你的男人。
Māmā shuō, hǎo nánrén hěnduō, tā bù huì qù bào bié de nǚrén. Dànshì zhè zhǒng shèhuì, hěnduō huài nǚrén huì shēnshǒu qù bào nǐ de nánrén.
Mama said, there are plenty of good men out there. He may not go around hugging other girls. However in the current society, there are plenty of ill intention women who will reach out to hug your man.

媽媽說，女人一定要出去工作，不管錢賺得多或是少，工作就是自己人生價值的體現。你一直在家，男人有機會在你面前說：“是我在養你。”
Māmā shuō, nǚrén yīdìng yào chūqù gōngzuò, bùguǎn qián zhuàn de duō huò shì shǎo, gōngzuò jiùshì zìjǐ rénshēng jiàzhí de tǐxiàn. Nǐ yīzhí zàijiā, nánrén yǒu jīhuì zài nǐ miànqián shuō:“Shì wǒ zài yǎng nǐ.”
Mama said, woman should have her own career. No matter how much you earn, to career is a reflection of the life value. If you always staying at home, your man has the chance say, "It is I who are providing for you."

媽媽說，你在外面工作，家裏的事情再忙也要做，不然花自己的錢請個鐘點工。家裏的事情一定要好好做，小孩也要好好教。
Māmā shuō, nǐ zài wàimiàn gōngzuò, jiā lǐ de shìqíng zài máng yě yào zuò, bùrán huā zìjǐ de qián qǐng gè zhōngdiǎngōng. Jiā lǐ de shìqíng yīdìng yào hǎohǎo zuò, xiǎohái yě yào hǎohǎo jiào.
Mama said, you should not neglect the house chores no matter how occupied you are with your career, otherwise spend money on a part-time cleaner. House chores should be well taken care of and children should be well taught and mannered.

媽媽說，他為你做了意想不到的事情，你可以感動，可以誇獎，千萬不要嘲諷地說“太陽從西邊出來了啊”，如果這樣，以後他不會為你做任何事情。
Māmā shuō, tā wèi nǐ zuòle yì xiǎngbùdào de shìqíng, nǐ kěyǐ gǎndòng, kěyǐ kuājiǎng, qiānwàn bùyào cháofèng de shuō “tàiyáng cóng xībian chūláile a”, rúguǒ zhèyàng, yǐhòu tā bù huì wèi nǐ zuò rènhé shìqíng.
Mama said, be touched and praise him when he surprise you with something pleasant. Do not sneer and say "the sun must be rising from the west today". If that's what you said, he will never do anything for you again.

媽媽說，誰都不是誰的另一半，你的想法不說出來誰會瞭解？需要什麼感受，討厭什麼事情，你告訴別人，別人才會懂。
Māmā shuō, shuí dōu bùshì shuí de lìng yībàn, nǐ de xiǎngfǎ bù shuō chūlái shuí huì liǎojiě? Xūyào shénme gǎnshòu, tǎoyàn shénme shìqíng, nǐ gàosu biérén, bié réncái huì dǒng.
Mama said, no one is literally the other's better half, when you don't talk about your thoughts no one will understand. Others will know only if you tell them the type of expression you need and things that you don't like.

媽媽說，他的父母也是你的父母，就算他的父母對你不是很好，你也要對他們好。因為他們是他的父母。
Māmā shuō, tā de fùmǔ yěshì nǐ de fùmǔ, jiùsuàn tā de fùmǔ duì nǐ bùshì hěn hǎo, nǐ yě yào duì tāmen hǎo. Yīnwèi tāmen shì tā de fùmǔ.
Mama said, his parents are your parents too. You have to treat his parents with respect no matter how they mistreat you. This is because they are his parents.

媽媽說，決定和什麼人在一起了，就不要去埋怨苦日子，既然你選擇了他，就不要去埋怨他。
Māmā shuō, juédìng hé shénme rén zài yīqǐle, jiù bùyào qù mányuàn kǔ rìzi, jìrán nǐ xuǎnzéle tā, jiù bùyào qù mányuàn tā.
Mama said, once you have decided who you want to spend your life with do not complain about a tough life. Since you have made your decision do not grumble at him.

媽媽說，那麼有錢有什麼用，人呢？人在哪里？
Māmā shuō, nàme yǒu qián yǒu shé me yòng, rén ne? Rén zài nǎlǐ?
Mama said, so what if he is wealthy? Where is he?

媽媽說，我們這輩子能花多少錢？不要買什麼奢侈品，過得 幸福 就好。
Māmā shuō, wǒmen zhè bèi zǐ néng huā duōshǎo qián? Bù yāo mǎi shénme shēchǐ pǐn,guò de xìngfú jiù hǎo.
Mama said, how much can we spend in a whole lifetime? Live a blessed and happy life is what you need, not a luxurious material life.

媽媽說，不要唬小孩“媽媽不要你”，不要生氣地時候把小孩推出門，如果他真的不見了，你會很痛苦。
Māmā shuō, bùyào hu xiǎohái “māmā bùyào nǐ”, bùyào shēngqì dì shíhou bǎ xiǎohái tuīchū mén, rúguǒ tā zhēn de bùjiànle, nǐ huì hěn tòngkǔ.
Mama said, do not threaten your kids with "I don't want you anymore". Do not push him out the door when you are furious of the things they do. This is because you will be in pain if you really lose them.

媽媽說，不要打小孩，更不要在外面打。
Māmā shuō, bùyào dǎ xiǎohái, gèng bùyào zài wàimiàn dǎ.
Mama said, do not use physical punishment on your kids. Worse still to do it in public.

媽媽說，打打殺殺的愛很刺激，也很浪漫。但是，不現實。普通就好。
Māmā shuō, dǎ dǎ shā shā de ài hěn cìjī, yě hěn làngmàn. Dànshì, bù xiànshí. Pǔtōng jiù hǎo.
Mama said, dramatic relationship is exciting and romantic. However it is unrealistic. Ordinary one will do.

媽媽說，什麼都是緣分。
Māmā shuō, shénme dōu shì yuánfèn.
Mama said, it is fate that brings people together.

媽媽說，生命無常，要好好珍惜每一天。
Māmā shuō, shēngmìng wúcháng, yào hǎohǎo zhēnxī měi yītiān.
Mama said, treasure everyday because life is fickle and fragile.